Steve had an insightful conversation during a recent Intro Lab session with a woman who was surprised that she gets a choice in how others respond during Check-In.
Often we get in such a rhythm of engaging with others that we want to jump in and fix. Sometimes the best way to help another is not to do anything.
Remember to offer a choice in how you will respond to someone. Take the time to listen with gentle curiosity, then ask what would be most helpful in that moment.
This takes the pressure off of you to come up with a fix or an answer while they are speaking. You can be fully present and just listen. Just be.
Such a great concept. If Christianity by and large would adopt this, it could be revolutionary so many times we (with good intentions) jump in to help and end up making it worse.